2017. Seven learnings.
1. Confidence is an inner thing. It’s funny that I say this because I’ve always searched for it outside, confusing it with validation, intelligence, and how likeable I am (or could be), but the only thing confidence is, in reality, is a decision. Or rather a solid outcome of when you decide to be true to yourself. Just that. The rest falls into place automatically.
2. The people you surround yourself with control a whole lot of things about you. Some of them really do uplift you, but at the same time, the others stop you from growing (even if they are great individuals otherwise). You don’t come across the right people often, but who you do stumble upon are people disguised as being right. I can’t say much on how to distinguish but it’s always easier to know when you learn how to, first of all, be right for yourself and to others.
3. It’s ok to not know or be who you’d like to be. It’s also ok to be inferior to someone in terms of knowledge, ability, empathy or personal growth. But it’s not wise to limit yourself because of that one person you think is so much better off. Some people truly are more fortunate, quicker at growing, gain success more easily and are so good at being themselves that it makes you cringe a little at how you’re far behind. Look up to them, but don’t look down upon yourself by lowering yourself further.
4. When people say the mind controls everything, not the heart, they’re right. I’m still somewhere in the middle of accepting this but it stands true. We are naturally inclined to do as the heart says, but applying a little brain gives more satisfaction in the long run.
5. Not being selfless at all times does not equate to being selfish. You can’t make everyone happy, but with the same effort, you can keep the ones who matter twice as happy.
6. Things are as quick at getting better as they were at going wrong in the first place. Be forward-looking.
7. Goals are important. Not all of them have to be loud or life-transforming. They may change over time, but you have to know where you’re headed. Things begin to fix as soon as you come out of your little bubble and see where it’s actually taking you.